It provides couples with interactive step-by-step exercises for each chapter of the book. Use this workbook to record answers to relationship questions, journal, interact with key concepts, and incorporate tools to build connection, intimacy, and respectful partnerships. planning date nights together trying a new hobby or activity together expressing appreciation for your spouse complimenting your partner If nurturing fondness toward your spouse isn't a priority, Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. Read more Print length 320 pages Language English Publisher Harmony Publication date The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown Publishers imprint (Three Rivers Press). Chapter 1 - inside the Seattle Love Lab: the truth about happy marriages This chapter speaks of how John Gottman (et al) made a "Love Lab" where they studied couples (recorded, physiologically monitored, etc.). You'll be amazed to see the energy they return with and that's why giving space is one of the important principles of marriage. 3. Build trust Trust should perhaps be the basis of every relationship in your life and most importantly, marital relationships. Many people believe that without trust, relationships have no reason to continue. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness Gottman devised a five-step model for resolving these conflicts: 1. Soften your startup, start your conversation without criticism or contempt. 2. Learn to make and receive repair attempts. A repair attempt will deescalate the tension and the situation. 3. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. CommunityMaking Learning WholeThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkSmall Talk, Big Results: Chit Chat Your Way to Success!Love That BoyThe Relationship CureSummary of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkChange Your Brain, Change Your LifeThe Man's Guide to WomenLove WorksBe Where Your Feet AreSplitopiaThe Seven Principles for The first response addresses the situation at hand - a complaint, while the second response attacks the person's sensibilities and throws blame - criticism. Contempt Contempt is "poisonous" to a relationship. It is the eye-rolling, cynicism, name-calling, sneering, mockery, hostile humor, and other demeaning behaviors. Dr. "An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage."—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Sev